When it’s about personal development, you often will be indicated at the importance of self-reflection. But how reliable is the image that I have of myself? How do I know that my self-image is correct?
Having a correct self-image is more difficult than you think. Of course you can send your friends and family a questionnaire, with which they can anonymous judge you. But imagine that for example you have a shrill voice, which is also accompanied by a lot of volume; the question is then whether you will be happy with the self-image that matches the reality.
Research of the de Radboud University Nijmegen shows that most human beings slightly overestimate themselves. It’s function is that you navigate a little more easier through life. Because of your positive thinking of yourself, you will have more self-confidence and you’ll easier dare to make some steps. The disadvantage is that people with a to positive self-image, can react very hostile to criticism, and because of that they will learn less from feedback.
Research of the University of Southampton (2018) shows that 65 percent of the Americans find themselves more intelligent than average.
Also more than 40 percent of the people say that they have more friends than others. Even prisoners put themselves above average where it is about being friendly and morality! On the property of ‘obeying the law’ they were more self-critical.
I myself had an experience once regarding my self-image. A colleague told me that, sometimes, I don’t let her finish her sentences and that I interrupt her. I was totally unaware that I was doing this. I can tell you that I was very grateful with her feedback, because from that day on I can ‘play’ with my behavior, depending on the situation!
Becoming who you are
It is very difficult to consider yourself well. Your self-image is mostly based on your thoughts and intentions, while with other people we find it important what they do. Thus the image of yourself is limited; you only see one side. The self-image is not only who you are, but it also gives direction to it; do you consider yourself to be an introvert or extravert, than you probably will behave accordingly. Getting to know yourself is a process, and fortunately; there is another chance again tomorrow!
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