The influence of mind set.
What is mind set?
Your mind set is your thought pattern. The way you think about your talents, qualities and possibilities and how you experience your surroundings. This pattern, your mind set, has arisen and evolved over time. That is why you perceive it as the truth, the only truth. It determines how you look at yourself and others and how you react on that. Sometimes it can be very helpful, it can also limit you. So it’s good to be aware of it and to realise that you can influence or even change it.
Which types of mind set are there?
There is a lot of research about this and there has been much written about it. I’m going to take you into two visions on mind set and I will add my interpretation.
Carol Dweck distinguishes a fixed mind set and a growth mind set. Having a fixed mind set, you assume that intelligence and talents are fixed in advance.
You are smart and talented or not. You feel the pressure to prove your level again and again. That’s why you prefer to play it safe and take less risks.
If you have a growth mind set, your starting point is that if you do your best and you make an effort, you can get better. You like to try new and difficult things and you are convinced that, by learning and experience, you can grow and be capable of more. According to the research of Carol Dweck, people with a growth mind set will achieve more and it is possible to develop a growth mind set.
The Arbinger Institute starts with an internal and external mind set. The internal mind set is focussed on you as an individual, the external mind set also takes the perspectives, needs and challenges of others in concern. To be able to achieve something together, an outward mind set is important. And also here is the good news that you can develop this in a practical way.
Personally, by nature, I have a positive mind set. I like to think in possibilities and challenges instead of impossibilities and problems. This happens without saying and it helps me to look at situations with an open mind. After all, you can’t change the situation, but you can change the way how you handle it. This attitude has brought me a lot of good things and helped me to make new things happen; it also helps me in difficult times. I like to stimulate others to experience this mind set and I am a role model in this. Sometimes people call me the optimist… and that, to me, is not the same.
The difference between someone with a positive mind set and an optimist
A person with a positive mind set thinks in possibilities and has a healthy realism.
The latter is necessary to be alert and to get results. These results are needed again to ‘feed’ the positive mind set. And that is where I think is the difference with an optimist. The optimist often misses that sense of reality. He or she sees everything as positive and doesn’t realise that it doesn’t always comes to a good ending naturally. That can block results and therefore also the credibility towards others. How credible you are is important in the judging of others about you. What it is about ‘judging’ will be explained next time by Claudia.
How your mind set can contribute to your luck and success
Whatever theory you choose to describe your mind set, your mind set also determines your definition of luck and success. And this works the same way for everyone around you… they form their own judgement about you and how successful you are, seen from their perspective and mind set.
Until next time
Then more about ‘judging’
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